Hi. I'm Michelle, and I'm a writer.
It's been five years since I started writing novels, and only a year since I confessed to my friends and family about it. I was, I don't know, worried what they'd think of me if they knew I was a writer. They'd expect me to become a best-seller immediately. Or maybe they'd hate what I wrote.
So, for a long time I kept it secret, writing in my bedroom with the door closed, never mentioning to anyone that I was clandestinely writing.
And then I stumbled upon a website for writers. Authonomy, it's called, and I found a virtual connection with hundreds, even thousands of people in the same situation I was in. They understood about my writing habit, and they even helped me become a better writer. There are plenty of writing support groups like that, both online and in local groups where people meet up and read each others' work.
After participating on Authonomy for a few months, it felt almost normal to be a writer. There were so many people doing it, I wasn't alone anymore. I established a connection with other writers who understood me and my struggles to write. Then I got up the courage to tell everyone that I was a writer. It was such a relief not to hide it, not to be worried that someone would find out.
Since then, I've finished writing my first book and have even completed another book. It's become part of who I am, and I'm not ashamed of it anymore. Plus, I've made friends with other writers who are amazing people and whose friendship I truly cherish, even if we've never met in person. They offer me support whenever I need it, even if it doesn't deal with writing.
So to all of you listening, I applaud you for taking the first step to coming out about your writing habit. Take the next step and connect with other writers and see how much more enriched your writing and your life will be.
I just stumbled upon your site! So informative! I laughed when I read your confession. I think most of us do it that way, slink about behind closed doors, pretending we're doing something else on the computer rather than furiously pounding out the scene going on in our heads!
ReplyDeleteI "came out" a couple of years ago, when I got an agent, but now I'm wishing I'd kept silent a bit longer. I still haven't been published, and now it's a bit embarassing to meet those puzzled and questioning glances with "Still waiting. PUblishing takes a long time."
Failure is so much easier in private. Love your blog. I'll be back!